As someone who loves to spend a lot of time by themselves, I don’t think that I take myself on a date enough. The last time I remember taking myself on a date was in 2017 and 2018 when I was living in Belgium during my placement year (where has the time gone?!).
When I was living by myself, I noticed it was easier for me to just make plans and do whatever I would like to do. I have all the freedom in the world as to where and how I’d like to spend my weekends and evenings (not that I don’t have the freedom now). Currently I’m flat sharing with my partner, it is slightly harder as the majority of the things that we do are pretty much done together and the plans that we make are made together.
COVID-19 has pretty much ruined a lot of plans for everyone that I have spoken to so far as well as mine. I think a lot of things happen for a reason. If I went to Thailand, I don’t think I would have been accepting job interviews due to the notice period and other things to consider when transitioning from one job to another. If you haven’t already caught up, head over to LOA: You Will Receive When You Are Ready To Accept where I shared a crazy synchronicity story that happened in my life very recently. It is about the concept of the Law Of Attraction, some believe it and others don’t.
My trip to Thailand was due next week and it has been cancelled (6th November 2020). I booked it in December 2019 and have been looking forward to it all year long only to watch this get cancelled by our bestie of 2020, Rona. As I miss my home country so much, I decided to take myself out on a date to a Thai food restaurant in my local area. I also packed my iPad with me so I can draw some earring patterns that I plan to make for Craftology by Bolly, an online shop that I started in June 2020 where I sell handmade accessories.
Taking myself out on Saturday has made me realise how much more time I have to spend with myself, even one day a week just to escape my living room where I currently spend working my 9-5. Infact, I think I will definitely make this my weekly ritual!
Have you tried going on a date with yourself? Below are some ideas I’ve tried myself and loved the experience!
Take yourself to a restaurant that serves your favourite food
As an Asian, we do LOVE our foods. Visiting a Thai restaurant somewhat makes me feel at home, especially when I’m able to have my comfort food, Pad Thai. That’s what I did last Saturday and I loved it. I’m not sure if this is just me but every time I visit a restaurant, I like to indulge in the whole experience; from the music, the decor, and of course, the food. Food to me is like another form of self-care, it gives me a bundle of joy and fulfills me.
Take yourself to a concert
It’ll be hard to attend a concert in a COVID-19 climate but this is worth considering when things are starting to stabilise. Towards the end of my placement year, my work colleagues treated me to a Beyoncé concert. Boy did I cry my eyes out when I found out about the surprise. Although I felt weird about it at the beginning having to attend a concert alone, it turned out to be such a wonderful experience. In fact, I really enjoyed it and I would totally do it again.
Take yourself to a local getaway trip
A night or a weekend away will make a huge difference. Even if you live by yourself, you need to have some time away from your ordinary space to get that refreshment that your mind, body, and soul needs. Every time I visit a new place, I always get many ideas and inspirations along the way just by being in a different environment.
Have you taken yourself on a date? If so, what did you do? If you haven’t, give it a go and let me know what you think!